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Blogging is stupid

Don’t worry. It’s just a title.

Being on vacation as I am, I don’t feel pressed to do things like provide relevance or clarity in my work. I can just type whatever the hell I want and not have to care.

‘Cause I’m on vacation. Like an effin’ freight-train.

Unfortunately, I was cursed with the ability to communicate clearly about anything, and in any medium, including ice-sculpture. It’s like it’s impossible for me to sound stupid. I hate that. Damn this heavy cross that is my burden to bear.

But, in the same way I don’t have to have a point or make sense while I’m on vacation, I also have the option of doing the opposite of what I just said I don’t have to do. That means I can make sense if I want to.

And that’s what I’m going to do now.

Wait. No. I’m actually going to do it now. That was a false start back there. I wasn’t ready yet. I’m ready now, though. OK? OK.

I actually went online today and read a post at someone else’s blog. I don’t do that very often anymore since my free time seems to be inversely proportional to my income, but I’m on vacation, so I have time, and with that time, like I said, I read a post.

It was this post.

And I’m not gonna lie to you. The main reason I read it was that it linked to my site. That’s how I usually find posts. I think, “Hey – I’m a pretty interesting person, so if someone links to me, then that person is probably interesting too, or at least has the potential to be interesting. At any rate, it’s another inbound link, and that’s just exactly the sort of thing my fledgling little sun-dried raisin of an ego needs. I’ll go read that post.”

This one was one of those posts that talks about the Rules of Blogging. Stuff like whether it’s OK to admit that you smoked pot once when you were twelve, or that you use your cat as a sponge in the bath.

Me? I think it’s OK. If your cat doesn’t mind, then go for it. That’s what I say: GO – FOR – IT.

As someone who has occasionally had a “talking to” about blogging from my employer (various people inside the company), I’ve done a lot of thinking about this Rules of Blogging crap. I haven’t done a lot of thinking about whether it’s OK to use your cat as a sponge. That’s obviously OK. We don’t need to discuss the ethics of scrubbing your armpits with kitty.

What I’ve decided is that all this talk about the Rules of Blogging is madness.

“Blog” is just a shorter way of saying “stupid website about cleaning your private parts with your cat.” I should know. I have a blog, and that’s what it’s about. Every last kitty-Calgon word of it.

It’s a medium. It’s just a way of getting information out. I bet that if I wrote a book about cleaning the area between my toes with my cat, and if it made the New York Times best sellers list, and if it was made into a movie, and if it starred Tom Hanks as my toes, and if there was a musical score conducted by John Williams to accompany it, no one would care. I wouldn’t get busted at all.

But, because it’s on a “blog,” it suddenly comes under a set of rules that are very different.

Why? I haven’t figured this out yet. I’ve seen the effect, but the cause is a mystery to me. I’ve had this blog for over 101,000,000 seconds, and I still don’t get it.

One of the examples of a risk that Alfred brings up in his post is my tendency to write about my depressive nature and the drugs I take to try and undo the crap job nature did on wiring my neurons. I’ve been told similar things by some of my friends in the “blogosphere.” They tell me I’m nuts for posting about my mental problems. I agree. But that’s part of being nuts, so what’s the confusion about?

On the other hand, thanks to search engines, comments, and the generally open nature of blogging, tons of people have found solace in my writing about being crazy.

Check this out. Read the comments. I know what these people were feeling, and I hate to think about what the world would be like if we couldn’t be open in our writing, and if there actually were Rules of Blogging.

Because I told the world I’m crazy in that post, other people who are equally screwed have found a place where they can go and say, “I’m screwed, but at least I’m not the only one, and thank the bloody heaves that this loudmouthed jerk blogger was willing to tell me more about anti-depressants and their negative effects than my pharmaceutical company bribed doctor would.” (Actually, part of the problem is that many doctors prescribing anti-depressants are general practitioners, and they don’t know what they’re talking about, so they give out bad information when it comes to issues that should be dealt with by specialists. They get paid pretty well, though, and I bet they get hot dates.)

The lame part of this story is that I’ve actually given in a bit to the pressure. I still love this blog, but it isn’t what it used to be. Over the past year, the pressure to “reconsider” certain blogging topics and styles has grown. One day,  I’ll have to choose: Job or blog? Put another way: Job or me? Put another way: Expensive car that I don’t need or…  me?

I haven’t made that decision yet. Part of the way I’m dealing with it in the meantime is PandaControl. Because it’s fiction, I can do pretty much whatever the hell I want.

But, truth be told, I’ve turned into a bit of a blogging pussy. And I’m not talking about what I’d scrub my face with in the bathtub.

It’s unfortunate.

But what to do?

What to do…

Published Thursday, July 20, 2006 5:04 AM by Rory

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George said:

Interesting. Not that I know. But that post sounded more like that you I think you are. Vacation must suit you or you really are relieved to finally admit to using cats to cleanse yourself.
July 20, 2006 5:25 AM
 

andrew/crucible said:

Hey Rory,

Well, I'd love to be right there with the cat-scrubbing revelations with you but...

One of the guys who gave me my little blog and who is one of the guys on our blog site once linked to someone else who posted something that was kind of crass and rude.

On top of this he clearly marked that if you were going to be offended not to click, the guy he linked to made a similar statement.

And then someone from our company in fact ignored both these warnings (maybe they thought they didnt get offended easily) and then did get offended.

And my mate was dragged into HR and given a warning about what he discussed.

And our company has no blogging policy, its a fully private site, and its our own thoughts. Sometimes we post technically relevant C# or whatever snippets so people can learn from us... but nothing company specific...

So yeah, censorship is in there.

Plus I used to have a personal site where I discussed things like my trip down depression lane, and treatment and all that. I looked back on it and found for me, and my pitiful writing style that it was pathetic self-indulgent bullshit and I was being a whiner-baby.

Uh, dont take that as any reflection on how I think about reading your site - you generally are much more intelligent in how you discuss these topics (if humourous/comical/whatever).

My point is, I dont mind my anonymity where I can get it... I've had my fill of online stalker types from student chatting days... and I'd rather not get hauled off to HR for something I did on a private site.

Hell, I'd like to see them pulling me in for shouting obscenities in the street.

But yeah, sometimes theres a fine line - and I require my job, it helps me eat. And I can't afford $300 shades.

Sure I just bought me a $1500 video camera, but thats still not a splurge like $300 shades.

They would be nice shades though.

Anyway, dont change a bit - cos you f'n rock my days, you're a funny bastard and you have style and substance, and sometimes, just sometimes, the technical bits rock too.

Plus I just watched you on The Code Room not that long ago and quite frankly I'd love to hear more and more about the mobile dev, I've gotta catch up on your videocasts on 9.
July 20, 2006 5:42 AM
 

Tom Simpson said:

I recently started thinking about the "rules", a well. The conclusion I came up with is that anything goes, as long as nobody gets hurt. Any sort of topic can be helpful to others, except for "real" personal attacks.

Open up! Lose your job! It makes life a lot more interesting.
July 20, 2006 5:44 AM
 

andrew/crucible said:

been there. done that. being unemployed for 6 months didn't make it so much interesting as miserable :)
July 20, 2006 6:13 AM
 

Erwin Blonk said:

Time for fictional blogs that comment on real issues? In the middle ages that was about the only way you could say anything critical and keep your head (job loss was a secondary problem back then).
The jester could put it most directly, but he had to make it sound funny. And even he had no head security (again, job loss was a minor problem).
So two differences:
1) you lose your job, not your head (the good part)
2) even jesters aren't safe anymore, which means the corporate world has less of a sense of humor than the maniac dictator kings of medieval Europe (the very, very bad part - no sense of humor about yourself is a serious mental defect that especially large companies and their CxO's suffer from).

Will fictional blogs be safe or will you end up in court or jobless because some humorless son of a very silly CxO feels offended, threatened or is just pissed off in general because the size of his disgustingly big company car is still to small to compensate for his , eh uhm well, thing.
July 20, 2006 7:41 AM
 

Alfred Thompson said:

Just so you know I'm one of those people who suffers from mild depression who thinks it’s good that someone talks about the issue and brings it into the open. I didn't say that you were wrong for talking about it or that you should stop. I just pointed out what you confirm in that some people are going to give you grief about it. Me? I find solace in knowing that someone has depression worse than me and is still functioning.
I should also have said that it is more interesting reading than EricGu on bike riding but that should be obvious.
Also the link from here sent me more traffic than the last link I got from Scoble. So thanks.
July 20, 2006 11:28 AM
 

Erwin Blonk said:

Alfred - (and Rory, for that matter)
trade your depression for Asperger. If you can handle and tweak it a bit, you still get your share of bad stuff but it can be fun too. Believe me.
July 20, 2006 12:49 PM
 

Michael said:

What to do? --- keep doing what you're doing but don't do something that would cause you to lose your job... I'd hate to see that happen to you.

Yours is one of the few blogs to which I remain subscribed because it's real. I propose that most bloggers are crazy to a degree. Take Scoble for example--- now there's Multiple Personality Disorder if I ever saw it ;) . Or if Jeff Atwood isn't Narcissistic, I don't know who is... Also, I'm a little tired of all the bloggers who seem to be trying to one-up one another with technical content or rehash stuff that's already been reported. Give me someone who can tell a technical story with a little flare any day.

I love your stuff Rory, and I think you do WAY more good than harm. Keep up the great work.
July 20, 2006 1:24 PM
 

punky said:

The poetry geek perspective: blogging with "duende" (or what you and Alfred said in many convoluted terms).

Since you manage to sneak in the odd poetry reading session between typing blog entries, driving expensive cars, hanging out with hot baristas, bouncing on and off of mind-altering medications, playing X-box, editing videos, posing with your Gucci-wear and getting fictionally shot, you may be familiar with Federico Garcia Lorca. Or you may not. It doesn't really matter, as ironically, I'm not either (apart from wondering - like Ginsberg - what he's doing down there by the watermelons).

The thing is that I stumbled over a reference to Garcia Lorca in the most unlikely of places, an essay on "Mob Software" by Richard P. Gabriel & Ron Goldman (http://www.dreamsongs.com/MobSoftware.html). The essay is a bit tree-hugging, but I found the mention of Garcia Lorca and something called "duende" very fascinating. Apparently, the "duende" is an intranslatable, definition-defying Spanish word that indicates a duality between life and death - that something cannot be truly alive without an simultaneous, underlying threat of death. Someone actually speaking Spanish might be able to give a much better explanation. A good someone might be Garcia Lorca himself: http://www.worldebooklibrary.com/eBooks/TonyKline_Collection/Html/LorcaDuende.htm

Anyway, the point of all this is that at least one of us, possibly many, read your blog precisely because it balances the funny, absurd and light-lived with
the "soul-baring and uncomfortable". It's human and real. Most blogs (including, I hate to admit, my own) are brain-leathally boring, because they fail to provide something that you can't easily find anywhere else. Alfred's notion of "safe" blogging brings images of Orwellian-style goodspeak to mind. I shudder at the thought.

I should close now by saying "drop the job, keep the blog", but I won't. That's obviously your decision to make. The opinions of some guy from over the hills, across the deserts, over the big water, and over some more hills don't matter. Instead, I'll say this: you're claiming that choosing between the job and the blog is choosing between the job and you. Is that true? Or are you simply choosing between two you's?
July 20, 2006 2:21 PM
 

Brent said:

Don't stop what you're doing. Seriously, your humor is a guarenteed laugh for me. Your posts on Ambien have been helpful too.

Maybe you could make work happy by posting to neopoleon.com as the good/boring Rory and then have a 3rd blog dedicated to the funny/crazy/sick/twisted Rory, and maybe that 3rd blog really isn't your blog because the guy at that blog spells Rori with an "i", has a fake looking mustache, and parts his hair in the middle.
July 20, 2006 3:34 PM
 

JoeG said:

Take the car!! Take the car!!!
July 20, 2006 5:08 PM
 

Daruku said:

Must be the drinking and moving servers and stuff but, this post is more you...
July 20, 2006 5:26 PM
 

Dare Obasanjo said:

Welcome to my world...
July 20, 2006 5:50 PM
 

Mark said:

Hey Rory, we've chatted about this before (Re: blogs, blackouts & blindness) and "myself" being the one questioning whether you thought the topics dangerous/appropriate/whatever and "you" being the one convincing me otherwise. i.e. “the good outweighing the negative fallout”

I think the unfortunate reality lies in the fact that it isn't a question of whether it's appropriate or not, rather the power and influence those who might disapprove are able to wield, no matter whether it’s right or wrong. For me personally, the fact that you generally take the attitude of “politically correct be damned, I’m saying what I think vs. what you want to hear” is the very thing that makes your blog a daily stop on my websphere travels.

Peace!
July 20, 2006 6:00 PM
 

Mark said:

P.S.

You mean "this" website ISN'T fiction???
July 20, 2006 6:03 PM
 

Rory said:

George -

"But that post sounded more like that you I think you are."

I just re-read it (posted it last night without thinking much), and I'd have to agree.

Weird, though, because I can't put my finger on *why* I think that.

"Vacation must suit you or you really are relieved to finally admit to using cats to cleanse yourself."

Vacation is awesome. I only compulsively check my email every nineteen minutes.
July 20, 2006 7:02 PM
 

Rory said:

crucible -

Your comment was really long, and I'm still in bed (*vacation*), so I'm not going to do the work to respond to every part of it, but I wanted you to know that I really liked this bit:

"Anyway, dont change a bit - cos you f'n rock my days, you're a funny bastard"

I'm going to make a shirt out of it, wear it, and then tell everybody that a foreign person said that about me, but not about them.

THEN we'll see who's in control, eh? EH?
July 20, 2006 7:13 PM
 

Rory said:

Erwin -

"Time for fictional blogs that comment on real issues?"

It's pretty much impossible to do anything without commenting on a real issue, so there's still some risk.

PandaControl is already, in only its fourth day of existence, poking fun at about a bajillion different thingies. We're just not going to come out and say it since that would make it less fictionish (that's a word, right?).

Safety aside, Dave and I are having fun with PandaControl (PC). That's the main reason we've got it - the writing sessions to put everything together were incredible. Completely different from writing alone. I've loved every second of it (except for all the seconds I spent learning to customize CS because of our dead Lithuanian design team).

I'm going to stop there, actually - this is turning into a post I was planning on writing :)
July 20, 2006 7:17 PM
 

Rory said:

Alfred -

"I didn't say that you were wrong for talking about it or that you should stop."

And I didn't take it that way.

I was glad to find your post - it dealt with things I think about nearly every day. It reminded me that I think about them (thinking about them had become automatic - when I read your post, I was able to step back and see things from a different perspective (specifically: yours)).

So, no - no misunderstanding. I'm glad - very glad - that you wrote it :)

"Also the link from here sent me more traffic than the last link I got from Scoble. So thanks."

Cool, Alfred. That's exactly what my ego needed.

Now it's going to squeek against the frame when I try to stuff it, along with myself, into my car.

It sits up front now, and it bosses me around, and I hate it. And it wants to control the temperature settings along with the radio, and I'm like, "ONE OR THE OTHER, EGO. ONE - OR - THE - OTHER."

Hey - I just realized I don't have an ego problem.

I'm actually schizophrenic!

Oh, that's a relief...
July 20, 2006 7:22 PM
 

Rory said:

Erwin -

"trade your depression for Asperger."

Where do you do that?

eBay?

I don't have the receipt anymore, so Walmart won't take it back...
July 20, 2006 7:23 PM
 

Rory said:

Michael -

"Also, I'm a little tired of all the bloggers who seem to be trying to one-up one another with technical content or rehash stuff that's already been reported."

That's one of the reasons I don't read many blogs.

I love the tech content, but only when I'm searching for it. I don't need to read every single article on every single little thing involved with every single little aspect of coding.

Especially the *really* esoteric stuff - the things that will only happen to that one coder ever. I really don't need to read that.

The exception is (and, yeah - I'm obviously a geek) if there's a story. I do enjoy a nice story about getting to the heart of a problem.

But if it's just a "How to enable dynamic thread rebooting outside the app domain of a process swapping widget marshaller" article then I'll be fine without it, thankyouverymuch.
July 20, 2006 7:28 PM
 

Rory said:

punky -

"The poetry geek perspective: blogging with 'duende'"

I know exactly what you mean, and that was a good way of putting it.

I have a friend who says she feels most alive when she's riding on the back of a motorcycle around blind corners at high rates of speed next to cliffs without guardrails while the tires are on fire and she's being shot at by fed-up possums who are tired of getting run over by motorcycles that shoot around blind corners at high rates of speed next to cliffs without guardrails while the tires are on fire and they're shooting at the motorcycles that...

Whoah.

Best not to continue that paragraph.

But I understand. It's those "Oh, shit, I almost died" moments that remind you you're alive.
July 20, 2006 7:32 PM
 

Rory said:

Brent -

"Maybe you could make work happy by posting to neopoleon.com as the good/boring Rory and then have a 3rd blog dedicated to the funny/crazy/sick/twisted Rory"

I'm kind of on that road.

I have a plan.

It probably won't work.

But having a plan is fun anyway. It makes me feel productive.
July 20, 2006 7:34 PM
 

Rory said:

Mark -

"You mean "this" website ISN'T fiction???"

I've always thought of it as being "fabricated reality."

And, yeah. There might be a *little* spin on my phrasing there.
July 20, 2006 7:36 PM
 

Erwin Blonk said:

Rory -

"Where do you do that?
eBay?"

It requires a Vulcan Mindmeld, but from there it's easy. Unless you really meld and get it mixed up.
July 20, 2006 9:44 PM
 

andrew/crucible said:

pah, using your vacation as excuse to not point by point break down my comment and analyse it in detail... what, was that your nice way of saying I was too verbose?

You know, a vacation isn't YOUR time, it's time you've been given throughout the year to pay more attention to US.

This isn't some namby pamby time to relax, this is the time to ramp it up!

And why do I get the feeling that when you say "foreign" you're talking about me like I'm some cancerous blight on society that needs to be elegantly removed.

You've given us 110% all the time - now is the time for 120%!
July 20, 2006 10:49 PM
 

Michael said:

Rory -

"That's one of the reasons I don't read many blogs."

So, clearly you aren't so crazy...
July 21, 2006 2:34 AM
 

Eric said:

I publish our internal web page daily and always put a funny comic or something on it for the users. Back when I started the page I used to write funny little stories, like your blog, on it. But I found myself re-thinking what I was saying way too much.

Is someone going to be offended by that?? Should I be saying that??

In the begining I was having fun writing and popping off my little stories in 15 minutes. As time passed it was taking a 1/2 hour to write a 15 min story because I kept wondering if I should say this or that and backspacing every 2 minutes. In the end I stopped writing, my house and wife are too important to me.
July 21, 2006 1:30 PM
 

Ralph Loizzo said:

What's worse than displaying all your craziness to the world through a blog?

Finding that no one is visiting but the googlebots and such.

While blogging was once a great vehicle for me to stand on my soapbox and shout at the world...

suddenly everyone around me turned deaf.
July 23, 2006 5:37 PM
 

markp said:

I think once you decide to blog under your own name you are accepting that people will be able to learn far more about you than they possibly could otherwise. There are many negatives to this but I believe they are outweighed by the positives (I hardly read any pseudonymous blogs).

I would not want a job with an employer who had a problem with my blog (which is pretty tame really), but then I don't feel inclined to say much about my day job. Clearly you can afford to take this "risk" (someone will always want to hire you) so I think you should keep saying whatever you like :)
July 25, 2006 1:19 AM
 

melanie said:

You choose you... That's What You Do! Sooner or later, you'll get it. :)
July 28, 2006 10:40 PM
 

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